A Girls Honesty

Whenever a friend confides in me about problems in their relationships with their partner, I ask them, “Is this something you are willing to deal with one year, five years, or ten years from now?” I have a friend who has a hard time when I ask her this question. She feels like I’m telling her to break up with her partner, which is not the case. You have to think about what your partner puts you through because you two are different people. This is only for some, but how much disrespect are you willing to put up with? And are you okay with that? Are you okay with someone showing you their true colors? Can you love this person at their worst for long periods of time?

I firmly believe that if someone does not see your value, you should not waste your time trying to make them see it. My partner and I are very different people, and I am in that position where I have to ask myself, am I okay with putting up with his worst at 1, 5, 10 years from now? And my answer at the moment is I don’t know.

I am entering this new time in my life where I am very much in love with God. I love reading my Bible and spending time with the Spirit. My partner believes there is a God but is not strong in faith. Before I met him, I was on fire for the Lord, but I was very lonely at the time. My partner came into my life showing me a good time, money was never a problem, and we got along so well. I felt on top of the world. However, the Lord told me he did not want me to get close to worldly people, but there I was, disobedient. Now, two years later, I am indifferent about what to do. I feel this change inside me, and I want to move forward in life, which means detaching from worldly activities like drinking our weekends away. Our friend group consists of people who are also very worldly. And lately, I do not want to be around them. Not because they’re rude or mean, but because I have nothing in common with them anymore.

My partner already has his career, house, and finances. I am at a time in my life where I am trying to strengthen my relationship with God, and I am applying to optometry school. Overall, I am still trying to figure life out. I am in this weird stage where “I am an adult,” but I can’t stand on my own two feet. I live part-time with my brother and part-time with him. I have imagined our lives together. Never did I think he was only a season of my life.

Update: 2 years later, we broke up on Christmas…